Happy Birthday, Corey


After writing a post last week about our son Corey’s visit home to Muskegon in July, I received many beautiful responses from people from all parts of my life.

Today is Corey’s 29th birthday so I thought it would be nice to share some of the notes I received. I would like to mention that I received permission to post them.


My daughters sent me your post on Corey. How beautiful to read of a mother’s love for her son and to express all the great qualities of a really great young man. My girls and wife have always had nothing but great things to say about all your kids. You and Mark have been awesome examples of how to live a Christian life and treat others well. You should be proud of your entire family.

I agree with our new pope as we Catholics are called to live our faith, love and not judge. There will only be one judge on the final day. Please know that you are in our prayers with your own personal journey. I miss seeing your smiling face.

Regards to Mark and your great children.

Much love,

Kirk Antekeier


Hi Rosemary,

I so very much appreciated you posting and writing about your son. One of my sons is also gay. And, for us, it simply does not matter. I thought you might appreciate knowing that the Senior Pastor with whom I work is a former Catholic priest. He is also gay and will be marrying his partner next month. I feel very honored to have been asked to preach the homily for their wedding.

Blessings to you as you bravely and graciously continue your journey.

Ellen Cutting Schoepf


Hi Rosemary,

I had to drop you a note after reading your post about your son Corey.

As you know, I have a new grandson, Thomas. At some point during his first week of life, one of my son-in-law’s friends asked him: “What will you do if Thomas turns out to be gay?”. Obviously that’s a pretty strange question, but my son-in-law said something like “Well, we’ll love him and hope he has a happy life – we’re way beyond worrying about that kind of stuff”. But I was holding Thomas as we were talking about it, and I said “The thing is, if Thomas is gay, he’s gay right now.” Because I don’t think people “choose” to be gay or straight any more than they choose to be tall or short – God makes us the way He makes us, and it’s up to us to figure out how to use His gifts as best we can. Thankfully Corey has overcome societal pressure and embraced what God intended for him — what can be better than that? Enjoy the day. We think of and pray for you often.

Roger Buter

I have to admit that I was a little bit nervous about mentioning religion in that post, but the responses I received proved to me how loving and accepting people can be.


I hope these notes make you smile. Your dad and I love you just the way you are.

Happy birthday.



4 thoughts on “Happy Birthday, Corey

  1. Corey is one amazing individual. Smart, caring, funny — always embracing life (except for air travel!) — Rosemary, I love that your posts, filled with such beautiful honesty and truth have enabled so many friends to share their experiences. Their words show how far we have all come and how great it is that Corey and LGBT people of his generation and after will have such different lives. I’ve thought of you and Mark all day….thanks for helping to shape Corey into this incredible human being. He is very much loving work and life, which is so great to see. XOX Bevan

  2. All of us are created by God, ALL of us. I love that we have evolved in our lifetime that people can be themselves and do not have to be ashamed because they don not fit any stereotypical molds. Love is love, whether it is a man and woman, man and man, woman and woman…well you get the point. Praises to the Pope. God meant for us to be happy, ALL of us.

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